Dreamshitters, Standing Up For Yourself & Losing People Along The Way
There's something people don't tell you when you start to stand up for yourselves and following the beat of your drum. And that's this: often you'll lose someone along the way. Somewhere between finding your voice and dealing with dreamshitters, something changes.
You stand taller. You talk with conviction. You start to lose your people pleasing tendencies (don't worry, I'm 100% with you on this!) and you start to believe.
Believe you've got something to say. Believe you've got something to give the world. Believe that you matter. Believe that you deserve to be treated a certain way.
And that is AMAZING. Believe me.
But something else shifts as well. And that's your tolerance forbullshit.
Your eyes start to open to the people who take you for granted, the people who belittle you, and the people who don't like this new 'you'. (Except it isn't really new, that bold courageous version of you has been right in there, hiding for some time).
Some people just aren't going to be there for the ride. And sometimes those people who aren't going to be on the journey with you are the exact people you always assumed would be there.
When we start to live with our eyes open, embrace a wholehearted life and start saying yes to the dreams that scare us, we unknowingly force other people to take a long hard look at themselves.
Sometimes they don't like what they see. And they take it out on you.
So I want to assure you:
Everyone has their own shit to deal with. And every now and then, people will throw their shit at you. And it will hurt. But that doesn't mean you need to take it.
You are not responsible for the world's shit.
And no one has the right to make you feel small, or stupid, like your dreams are too big, or anything less than the fucking rockstar you are.
I get it, it's pretty scary losing people. It plays into a lot of our fears, like the fear of 'I'll never find someone else' and the fear of rejection that probably led to the person still being in your life.
So today, I want to give you a huge hug and tell you that cutting out the people in your life who make you feel like shit, might hurt at first, but you'll feel so much better afterwards.
And you'll get great new people in your life. People who see you as you are now, and root for you. People who lift you up and help you be the best version of yourself.
People who are worthy of you.
And you might only be able to count those people on one hand. But that doesn't matter. Those people are one in a million, and it's those people to hold onto and never let go.
So let's raise our bowls of ice cream to the people who appreciate us for the fabulous people we already are.